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Virtual Weight Loss Simulator

I just wanted to share this neat simulator tool I came across. You plug in your height, current weight, and target weight and the page generates a set of before and after images to project your weight loss. If you click the “more options” button, you can change the model’s skin tone, hair style, outfit, and more to better reflect yourself. It could really serve as a great motivator to see where you’re working so hard to get to. The simulator is available for both men and women.

Model My Diet | Virtual Weight Loss Simulator and Motivation Tool | Women.

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Distractions Ruin Diets

Weight check November 2013So I spent the last 3 months in South Carolina with my family, and wow did it wreak havoc on my progress losing weight. I know that by now you’re thinking, “Isn’t this like the third or fourth time she’s had to restart her diet?” And you’d be right. I have very little self-discipline, and I’m aware of that. I stick to my diet and exercise regimen by eliminating all the distractions that I can. I clear all the junk food out of my kitchen and stop making sweet tea. I do my workout first thing in the morning so I don’t have a chance to find something else to do instead. Being in my parents house threw all of that off, and I ultimately gave up. I gained back 5 pounds.

Today I started fresh. I’m doing Brazil Butt Lift again, and the fridge is loaded with healthy fruits and veggies. I probably won’t meet my original deadline of April, but I’m ok with that. For motivation I bought a bikini in a size medium. It was only $8; I really couldn’t resist. So now the mission is to get small enough to make it look good. Hopefully before this swimsuit season has came and went. How do you stay focused?


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How to Make a New Year’s Resolution You Can Stick To

What type of health and beauty blog would it be if we didn’t discuss new year’s resolutions? This must be the all time #1 topic that resolutions focus on every year. Everyone says this is the year i’m finally going to lose those 10 pounds or try that new haircut. And 2 weeks in, most of us have fallen way off the wagon and given up. So how on earth do you set a resolution that you can keep?new year resolution


  1. Be SPECIFIC- “I’m going to lose some weight” means nothing. Put a number on it! Give yourself something clear to aspire to. Say “I’m going to drop 20 pounds.” or “I’m going to run a marathon (26.2 miles).”
  2. Set Checkpoints- Sure, technically December 31, 2014 is your deadline, but that’s an entire year away. Wouldn’t it be nice to hit your goal early and perhaps even surpass it? Divide your goal into monthly or weekly checkpoints so that you can track your progress. Seeing it as it happens is great motivation to make more progress!
  3. Remind yourself, OFTEN- Set a weekly reminder on your phone or leave yourself little notes around the house that restate your goals. Particularly in places that you tend to go in that moment of weakness. If snacking is inhibiting your weight loss, post a sign in the pantry that says “There are grapes in the fridge.” Whatever it takes to remind you that you have options besides the chips. Make a meme and set it as your screensaver or lock screen!
  4. Reward yourself- As you keep your resolution going, treat yourself every time you hit a MAJOR milestone. Say, every 10 pounds or every time you add an extra mile to your run. Allow yourself the rare slice of pizza (thin crust!), or a new hair accessory. And plan a larger reward for when you reach that final goal. A new outfit or a weekend roadtrip will be very deserved after you’ve met your goals.
  5. Keep the list short- Part of this depends on just how epic your goals are, but don’t stretch yourself so thin that you can’t possibly achieve them. I think an ideal number is not more than 5 resolutions. If you complete one before the year has ended, by all means replace it with another, but no more than 5 at a time.

So all that being said, what are my resolutions for 2014?

  • Lose 40 pounds- Ideally, by April, but I will give myself until my son’s second birthday in September.
  • Grow out my hair- I’d love to reach chin length by the end of the year. I’ll have to research more protective styles and healthy hair practices.
  • A Youtube channel- I’d love to make and share some video tutorials with the world. I think I could have some quality content ready to present by June. This will be more dependent on input from you, the readers. What would you like to hear more about?

So what’s your resolution for the year? Let’s do it big for 2014!

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Weight Loss Roadblocks: a Progress rant

Progress was going so well, but now the numbers on the scale are creeping back up and it feels like I’m starting to lose the battle. Yes, I’m here today to vent. I think venting occasionally is healthy and helps me stay on track. Kind of like the way I allow myself the occasional piece of candy so that it doesn’t feel like I’ve cut sweets out of my life entirely.

I guess I can’t be surprised. Thanksgiving was just last week, so of course the numbers on the scale were going to go back up a little. But having been down almost 15 pounds, it’s kind of hard to see that you’re teetering on that only 10 pound mark again all of a sudden. Add to that the fact that I no longer have a DVD player that will play Hip Hop Abs, and I have now missed three days of work outs. I spent one of those days feeling like a crap sandwich, so I probably would not have gotten a workout in anyway though.

Of course, I know I’m making excuses and I’m to blame for my own regression. The fact that I haven’t worked out in 2 days is definitely my own fault. If I was really motivated I could have made something happen. I could have walked or I could’ve just done a different workout. But that just goes to show how easy it is to get off-track. I’ve also spent a lot of time out of the house, which means eating out entirely too much. And not every place has healthy options. But it’s time to turn it around before I find myself back where I started after 3 months of work.

Today, I ordered a salad when we ate lunch while out running errands. I volunteered to cook dinner early in the day, so that I could be in control of what I ate for once. I already feel better about my progress. I can get back to where I was, and I can surpass it. That is the point of this post. It’s ok to fall off the wagon sometimes, but you have got to get back on if you want to reach the goal. I feel my worst when I let something little stop me from progress. But it really doesn’t matter the size of the obstacle as long as you get over it. That’s the plan.

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Looking in the Mirror: My Weight Loss Pitfalls

pitfallsI guess I’ll never lose any weight if I don’t take the time to look at all the traps and pitfalls that have stopped me from doing it before now. It’s really nobody’s fault but my own that I’ve gained so much weight. I bet I’m not the only one Who else has run head first into these pitfalls?


Food is my ultimate weakness. I love it. I love to cook, I love to eat, I love to watch Food Network. I have no desire to stop eating. How’s a girl supposed to diet when it’s so easy to whip up my own french bread, cookies, and crab rangoon? And yes, I can make crab rangoon, they’re very easy. It’s too easy for me to go in my kitchen and make any unhealthy thing I have a craving for. Even the healthy things that I make , I tend to eat in unhealthy quantities. Portioning will be the death of me. It probably wouldn’t hurt to start planning my meals in advance as well. If I wait till I’m hungry to decide what to eat, I will eat whatever sounds good.


I used to be involved in marching band, and that kept me extremely active, but all that ended 4 years ago. I have tried to start an exercise regimen several times, and I never manage to stick to them. I tried Zumba, P90X, regular trips to the gym, power walking… even the ones I enjoy I can’t seem to keep doing. If I do not see progress happening, I’m easily discouraged. I went the first 30 days of P90X without losing a pound, so I lost motivation and never made it to day 45. I went to Zumba class twice a week until my schedule no longer allowed it. I have to find something I can stick to without fail. Speaking of which…


I know it takes times to lose the amount of weight I’m looking to lose, but I think I expect to start off with a bang. It is so discouraging to not see the numbers go down on the scale after 2 or 3 weeks of work. Perhaps I need to try one of those cleanses to jumpstart my weight loss. That first 5 to 10 pounds seems to be the hardest to lose. It’s all about progress, and I have GOT to start making some.


I need to develop a routine to my day that allows time for a regular workout. Usually my daily life is so sporadic that I don’t even eat breakfast on a regular basis. I recently started working from home so I’m developing a daily schedule. I need to make sure I allot time for exercise.


I have tried to address this problem by having a workout buddy, but the minute schedule conflicts come up this falls apart. It takes so much to get me ready to sweat. I don’t know if I need to hang a poster on the wall or a donut in front of my face but something has to work.

Is it just me? I’ve got work to do…

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My Goals: Natural Hair and Weight Loss

Missandei is hair goals

No journey is complete without a destination right? I can’t exactly measure my progress unless I know how far I’m trying to go. Its time to define success. Writing down your goals makes you more likely to achieve them, or so they say.

Missandei is hair goalsHair goals:

  • A healthy scalp- no scabs or flakes, no itching
  • Healthy hair- no split ends, minimal breakage, soft, and shiny
  • All natural hair- no processed hair left

<~~ I’d love hair like this, but whatever is natural for me is what I’ll have

Weight goals:

  • Ideal weight- 130 pounds
  • Tighter body- minimize stretch marks, develop muscle tone, no muffin top
  • eating habits- making healthy and permanent, sustainable changes

Everything sounds reasonable, so I’m determined to get it right this time. I just need to come up with plans I can stick to. I suppose I also need a deadline. My husband will deploy in the fall for 7 months. I’d love to be feeling and looking fabulous by the time he gets back. That gives me about a year from now. I can do that…

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Weight: What the hell happened??

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body in shape weight 130This was me my freshman year of college (2004). Ignore the hair, I was fresh from the beach that’s on the other side of those trees. I was probably around 125-130 pounds or so. I was also moderately active between marching band and just walking to every class. This was probably the best shape I was ever in. Not too skinny, but not flabby. No muffin-top, no stretch marks, no rolls. Everything was tight. I know 130 sounds like a lot for a girl whose only 5 feet tall but remember, I was active. Those thighs are more muscle than fat.

I’ve never really been a dieter… I’ve never needed to be. I ate whatever I wanted and I was so active that it burned off before I really packed on any weight. But you know, eventually you have to graduate and move on to real life. So 5 years and 2 degrees later, I was no longer marching 4 days a week and walking to all my classes. I was, however, still eating like a champ.

Here is me in 2009 and I’m a bridesmaid at a friend’s wedding. What the hell happened to me?! I didn’t even realize it until I ordered my dress in a size 14 and it was TOO SMALL!! I basically refused to go another size up, because a 16 would officially put me into the Plus Size category, and I wasn’t about to make that move. So I spent the day hardly able to breathe instead.

Ever since I’ve been making one failed attempt after another to lose some weight. The only thing I’ve really managed to do is keep myself out of the plus size section.

I spent most of 2012 pregnant with my son. I consider myself lucky that I was able to keep my weight under control during those 9 months. The day after he was born, I weighed the same as the day I found out I was pregnant. The problem instead, was stretch marks and jiggling. My stomach has never been the same. The skin is somewhat looser and the muscles themselves are pretty soft compared to before I was pregnant. I’ve never had ab muscles, but I’ve always had a very strong core, and now that’s gone too.

So here I am in 2013 weighing 180lbs, getting flabby, and tired of it. The summer is coming in south Texas. All I own are bikinis and right now I look like this:

6 Months after baby
I’ve got work to do…
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Time to Change: Natural Hair and Weight Loss

body change pregnancy

I don’t know who might end up reading this, but hello and welcome to you. I have a couple other blogs, but this one is probably the most personal. I’ve been transitioning my hair for about 6 months now and I realized that I want to document my progress. A lot of change can happen in that time! It’ll help keep me motivated, plus just be a reminder of where I started. I’d hate to forget all the efforts I’m putting into this.

natural hair transition changeTransitioning is when someone with relaxed hair gradually switches back to having natural hair. This means you stop your monthly chemical treatments and let your hair grow out in it’s natural state. As the new, natural hair grows out, you cut the old, processed hair away; thus the term “transition”. It’s for people who aren’t willing or ready for the drastic “big chop”, where you just cut all your hair off and start fresh. I’m not that bold… I spent a long time working on growing my hair long and to cut it all off at once just seemed a waste. Plus, what if my bald head is shaped funny? lol.

weight loss journey changeI also want to start losing weight. I’ve tried several times and I always fail. Any progress I do make is short-lived, and I’m at a point where I’m actually unhappy with my body. There were days when I would look at myself and think ‘sure I could look better, but this will do’. I don’t think that anymore. I peek in the mirror or look at photos and go ‘when did that roll get there?’ It’s time to fix it.


So I’m going to document my efforts to get comfortable in my own skin again here. You’re welcome to share your thoughts, and if reading this helps you in any way, I’m glad. I suppose the only way to make this a complete log of my progress is to backtrack to where I started…