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Balancing Different Diets in the Same House

My husband is home! 🙂 He just got back from a seven month deployment, and my son and I are absolutely thrilled to have him finally home. However, this introduces a new challenge to my weight loss journey.

I am overweight. We know this. Ideally, I would like to drop about 40 pounds to reach a goal weight of 130. My husband, on the other hand, has struggled to bulk up his entire life. When we met, he was 120 pounds soaking wet, which is very skinny when you’re a 5’7″ man. It has taken me almost 10 years to put 20 pounds of meat on him. He currently weighs about 140, but his goal weight is 160. How on earth are we supposed to meet our fitness goals while eating from the same kitchen? Take a look at breakfast from this morning:

his and hers breakfast plate

The short answer is portion control. His plate has 4 whole eggs, while mine only has about 3 egg whites. I took only half each of an apple and a bagel, while he ate each one whole. All told, my plate amounted to about 400 calories, while his was well over 700. For lunch and dinner his plate is often loaded up with extra protein and carbs, while mine is half-filled with veggies. We both make it a point to stay very well-hydrated.

We have decided to start planning our daily meals ahead to better track our intake and grocery needs. I’m now cooking enough for 4 people, even though I’m only feeding 2 adults and a toddler. The most important thing is choosing healthy and whole foods. So, if you’re trying to figure out how to balance several people with different dietary goals on only 1 grocery budget, rest assured that it CAN be done. I’ll be revisiting this topics in a few weeks to let you know how each of us are progressing. Wish us luck!

Thanks for reading!

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The Struggle is Real! My 5lb Roadblock

It’s been a while since I last updated you on my weight loss progress, and there’s a reason for that. Quite frankly, there hasn’t been any progress in quite some time. My husband returns from his deployment THIS WEEKEND! YAYYYYYY!! Of course, this means that 7 months have gone by, which is the deadline I originally set to achieve my goal.

Apr 2014 weight check 2And I have done no. Such. Thing. I had plans, realistic plans, to lose 40 pounds in the past 7 months. To date, I have only officially lost 10. Some days, the scale says I have lost 14, but that is the limit to my weight loss. I am very disappointed in myself, because I know that this is my own fault.

I have been struggling within the same 5-pound range for the last 3 months or so. Despite all the self-shaming and tears (yes, I have cried over it), I cannot seem to find the self-discipline I need to push past this point. I have fabulous outfits waiting in my closet for when I get down to that size 9 I dream about, and I still can’t make this happen. I eat at home much more often, yet I still let my portions get out of control. I have an assortment of workouts to choose from, and I still tell myself I don’t have the time (even when I do). See? It’s 100% my own fault, I’m well aware. That doesn’t seem to be changing the situation for me.

Apr 2014 weight checkWho else has been where I am in this struggle? What did you do to persevere? Or perhaps the question is, DID you persevere? I want to get past this. I suspect that having my husband home will help me, since he’s MUCH better about sticking to healthy habits than I am. I suppose I need to set a new deadline as well. My birthday is roughly 8 weeks away. In that time, I want to reach my 20-pound milestone. That should be enough time to drop 6-10 pounds if I get back on the wagon and STAY ON. Baby steps are key. If I can do a little, I can do a little more. How do you get through a roadblock? I can’t be the only one whose been there.

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My Goals: Natural Hair and Weight Loss

Missandei is hair goals

No journey is complete without a destination right? I can’t exactly measure my progress unless I know how far I’m trying to go. Its time to define success. Writing down your goals makes you more likely to achieve them, or so they say.

Missandei is hair goalsHair goals:

  • A healthy scalp- no scabs or flakes, no itching
  • Healthy hair- no split ends, minimal breakage, soft, and shiny
  • All natural hair- no processed hair left

<~~ I’d love hair like this, but whatever is natural for me is what I’ll have

Weight goals:

  • Ideal weight- 130 pounds
  • Tighter body- minimize stretch marks, develop muscle tone, no muffin top
  • eating habits- making healthy and permanent, sustainable changes

Everything sounds reasonable, so I’m determined to get it right this time. I just need to come up with plans I can stick to. I suppose I also need a deadline. My husband will deploy in the fall for 7 months. I’d love to be feeling and looking fabulous by the time he gets back. That gives me about a year from now. I can do that…

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Time to Change: Natural Hair and Weight Loss

body change pregnancy

I don’t know who might end up reading this, but hello and welcome to you. I have a couple other blogs, but this one is probably the most personal. I’ve been transitioning my hair for about 6 months now and I realized that I want to document my progress. A lot of change can happen in that time! It’ll help keep me motivated, plus just be a reminder of where I started. I’d hate to forget all the efforts I’m putting into this.

natural hair transition changeTransitioning is when someone with relaxed hair gradually switches back to having natural hair. This means you stop your monthly chemical treatments and let your hair grow out in it’s natural state. As the new, natural hair grows out, you cut the old, processed hair away; thus the term “transition”. It’s for people who aren’t willing or ready for the drastic “big chop”, where you just cut all your hair off and start fresh. I’m not that bold… I spent a long time working on growing my hair long and to cut it all off at once just seemed a waste. Plus, what if my bald head is shaped funny? lol.

weight loss journey changeI also want to start losing weight. I’ve tried several times and I always fail. Any progress I do make is short-lived, and I’m at a point where I’m actually unhappy with my body. There were days when I would look at myself and think ‘sure I could look better, but this will do’. I don’t think that anymore. I peek in the mirror or look at photos and go ‘when did that roll get there?’ It’s time to fix it.


So I’m going to document my efforts to get comfortable in my own skin again here. You’re welcome to share your thoughts, and if reading this helps you in any way, I’m glad. I suppose the only way to make this a complete log of my progress is to backtrack to where I started…